Three days ago, the HIMYM finale finally aired on TV. The long awaited ending to the wonderful nine year run is about to be shown. The footage filmed nine years ago was going to be revealed. There was so much excitement going on especially since they wrapped up all the other characters in the penultimate episode, “End of the Aisle”. This meant that the last episode would be dedicated all about Ted and the Mother! Great, right?
It should have been.
This is a story of how I met disappointment. (contains spoilers)
You see, readers, it’s not easy to go through the past few seasons where Ted finally gets closure on Robin and Robin and Barney’s relationship developed. Robin and Barney have been in a rough patch in season 5 but they still got together in season 7 again because neither of them ever stopped thinking about each other. In the same season, Ted confesses once more to Robin and this was how it went:
Ted: I think you know how you feel about me now and I don’t think time’s going to change that. Just tell me, do you love me?
Robin: No. (sobbing)
It was even confirmed that the reason why Ted and Robin didn’t work out was because Robin was in love with Barney. The creators even “confirmed” that they were supposed to be end game (but now we all know that was a lie).
Furthermore, Ted goes on to narrate how Robin becomes a successful news reporter who traveled around the world and despite this, she was never alone. Remember that? NEVER ALONE.
Looking at the finale, this was obviously not true. Robin was unhappy. She was a successful news reporter but she didn’t enjoy it anymore. She was stressed and alone. Just like in season 1 when she hadn’t been officially part of the gang, she owned a lot of dogs in her apartment without friends and that’s how they turned her into again.
If the kids knew about their Aunt Robin while future Ted was narrating all this, why didn’t they butt-in and ask “but Aunt Robin /was/ alone! She always comes over for the past years!”
Another major flaw in the finale was the episode in season 8 where Ted goes to the mother’s apartment and gives a speech on how he’s going to meet her in 45 days and how he wants to have more time with her because:
Ted: I love you. I’m always going to love you. To the end of my days, and beyond.
If this was past Ted, I’d understand the reasoning how “things change, people move on blah blah” but then this was a fictional encounter to show how future Ted will continue loving the Mother “to the end of [his] days and beyond”. Watching the finale, we all know that it’s not true because he “totally, totally, totally, [has] the hots for Aunt Robin”.
You guys may say that Ted will continue to love the Mother but he just goes back to Robin because loving is what people do best, but that doesn’t make sense at all. If this were the case, then both would be each other’s second choice and back-up plan only. It, therefore, won’t go well for future Robin and future Ted too.
Another thing I’d like to point out that was wrong in the finale was how they completely disregarded the mother of Barney’s child. I don’t think the woman would just simply hand over the kid to Barney and disappear into oblivion. The fact that Barney turned from a man willing to give up everything for the woman he loves (Robin) into the womanizing man he was before he fell in love with Robin without going through depression after their divorce simply baffles me too. Robin had her moment of sadness during that party where she tells Lily that it pains her to see her ex-husband flirting around but Barney never had that kind of scene. It’s just completely flawed.
A lot more things were wrong during this episode because nothing was explained fully well. We, as an audience, are basically forced to process each scene one after the other. Personally, I don’t like the ideas introduced in the finale but I would be able to accept it still and perhaps appreciate the ending if it was well executed.
People who defend the finale say that if it’s legendary, we have to “wait for it”. The thing is, however, is that it wasn’t legendary. What’s legendary is something where the characters become happy. What they became in the finale wasn’t a group of happy characters. Ted didn’t wait for something legendary with Robin either. He lets go of Robin completely in season 9. Robin asks him why she shouldn’t be with the guy who does everything for her (referring to Ted) and Ted answered with:
Ted: because I’m not that guy anymore.
He finally got the chance to meet the mother and love her. I believe that his love for the mother was genuine, but if he’s suddenly going to fall back to Robin then it would imply that there were unresolved feelings. It would make it seem like the mother only helped Ted forget Robin temporarily. The beautiful quotes made in the past seasons all mean less now. If he did fall in love with Robin again /after/ the mother’s death, then they should have at least showed a clip of it before jumping into the ending!
What doesn’t make sense even more is how the kids reacted. Sure, I’d understand if they want to support their dad to go out with Aunt Robin but that’s not how they’re supposed to say it. The way they said it was like they didn’t even care. They should’ve told him something like:
“It’s time, dad. You told us yourself. Loving is what we do best and it doesn’t have to make sense. Mom has been gone for 6 years now but that doesn’t mean you have to keep living in your past. We’re okay with it. Go get, Aunt Robin! We’re happy for you and wherever mom is right now, we think she wants you to be happy too.”
That way, it could have been more meaningful and less unsympathetic.
Overall, I just didn’t like the way it ended. The finale had its great moments, however, because I really liked the mother. Her character was instantly lovable.
Of course I know that the finale happened in the span of many years, but that doesn’t justify the fact that they’re not going to show vital points to support the sudden increase in plot twists. If they had time to give scenes to crack jokes or that unnecessarily long hi-five in the beginning, they should have made time for closure and resolutions. I believe that the plot for the last episode could have worked if they dedicated season 9 to it or make a final 10th season. I honestly still won’t be happy because I love the way the characters were in the penultimate episode and to see them grow apart in the finale is sad. This, however, doesn’t mean that I’ll hate it because if it was executed properly one by one without leaving unanswered things in the end, I’d feel okay.
This show has been a very big part of me and I’m very attached to it. The characters are flawed but I love them and I think they deserve to get a happy ending. A happy ending not just for Ted and Robin but for everyone else. They may be happy individually at the end, but they are no longer the gang we all came to love throughout the series and that’s what hurts the most. HIMYM will truly be missed, but sadly I can no longer watch the past episodes anymore knowing how it’s going to end completely the opposite of what they (the characters) worked for.
And that, viewers, is the story of how I met disappointment.